A Response

Yesterday a woman left a comment calling me distasteful for writing so many posts depicting Chase and I fighting with each other, and like any mature blogger I went on a Twitter rant, duh. (okay, it was only 4 tweets but that’s an insane amount of Tweeting for me). After I got it out of my system, I finally started wondering why such a stupid comment had me riled up, and I had to admit that the perception that Chase and I are constantly at each other’s throats is not entirely unfounded based on some things I’ve written. However, it is also completely inaccurate to our reality and although I know you’re not supposed to feed the trolls, I want to respond anyway.

The truth is, Chase and I hardly ever fight and most of that time we spend together not fighting just isn’t interesting to write about. Want to know what we did this Saturday? We cuddled on the couch and watched movies all day. I am already getting bored and tired of myself just writing that one sentence. I tried to think of something I could do to make that day seem funny, unique, or interesting and I couldn’t.  Watching “The Help” in my pajamas on a Saturday afternoon while eating potato chips just isn’t going to be good material, which is truly unfortunate because if it was I would have A LOT more to write about.

I think I tend to write about imperfect moments in our lives because that’s what I enjoy reading in other blogs. Not because I want to read about other people’s misfortunes, but because I like to know that we aren’t alone. If I go on Facebook all I see are smiling faces and perfect couples holding hands and looking perfect all the time, and I want to know that we aren’t the only peope to bicker over ridiculous things like dusting the living room. Writing about these moments forces me to laugh at my own imperfections. It makes it impossible for me to stay mad or hold a grudge, and even with hosting fees, this blog is way, way, cheaper than any therapy I could have.

So yes, we do fight. But not as much as this little blog might lead you to believe. And yes, I enjoy writing as a way to find humor in those little moments that might otherwise be anything but humorous. And if you think that I’m distasteful and probably a pain in the ass to be married to, YOU MIGHT VERY WELL BE RIGHT. But you’re not married to me, and the only opinion I really care about is the person who is.

And he almost never reads this blog so that pretty much gives me the all-clear for anything. Ba-zing!

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15 Thoughts on “A Response

  1. Mary on January 25, 2012 at said:

    Puh-leeze keep on writing about disagreements. It makes me feel so much better. My husband (with whom I rarely fight) wouldn’t even have bothered to respond to the cleaning schedule. He’d just have rolled his eyes. That’s because he’s the one who could trip over his stuff all over the stairs & never even think that he could take it up & put it away.

  2. When I read how your husband reacted to the cleaning schedule, it totally made me think of how my boyfriend would’ve reacted to something like that. We bicker like my grandparents did, and they were married over 50 years. The point is I think most people can relate to silly arguments in a marriage or relationship without thinking y’all hate each other.

  3. it’s YOUR blog – you should write about whatever you want!

  4. Ashley H on January 25, 2012 at said:

    Oh PLEASE! What you wrote about was funny (for an outsider), relateable, and hardly a huge blowout suggesting that you hate each other. Leaving such a rude comment was distasteful. Blogs, Facebook, and Twitter has become such an outlet for people and anyone who only writes about rainbows and sunshine is only fooling themselves. :)

  5. Kelli on January 25, 2012 at said:

    I think it’s funny and REAL. We all have interactions like these in our lives, whether with our partner, family, coworkers, friends, etc. Perfect moments aren’t really that interesting–don’t change your style.

  6. Melissa Basler on January 25, 2012 at said:

    I personally like reading those kinds of things as well. I think it’s far more realistic than the “shiny happy people” theme. I kind of found it funny, because that’s the kind of dialogue my boyfriend & I would probably have (regarding the cleaning schedule topic). Not to mention, my boyfriend does a journal comic, so a lot of our little conversations and “spats” end up in comic form :) haha

    Love your blog. Keep doin’ what you do :)

  7. Carla Reed on January 25, 2012 at said:

    I think your blog is flippin’ hilarious. Don’t stop. Don’t change.

  8. I love the real life stories! Keep ’em coming!
    Anyone in a real relationship has those exact same conversations! That is what makes it funny, cause they are true! LOVE IT!

  9. Maaike on January 26, 2012 at said:

    I just discovered your blog yesterday (pioneer woman to tasty kitchen to pink basil) and thought it was so funny I bookmarked it. So when you mentioned the negative comment, I immediately had to read it for myself. All I can say is, I would “find it extremely distasteful” if you paid any attention to her and changed what you blogged about. I thought you were hilarious! Also, it’s so reassuring to know that other people (who aren’t on Hoarders – doesn’t watching that make you want to clean?!) also argue about cleaning, even if it’s only for 20 minutes.

  10. I love your stories about Chase! You write with great humour and all your stories depict the lives of normal, everyday couples. Keep ’em coming please.

  11. Please, take heart. I think my husband and I interact in a very similar way and I’ve never read anything on this blog that made me think, “Wow, they probably don’t love each other.” Instead, I’ve always seen two very different people who are living the day to day with each other—which sometimes results in silly, funny (in hindsight) arguments. My husband and I have so many of the same conversations–it’s a part of life! And it’s one of the things (in my opinion) that makes marriage such a fun, difficult, hilarious, challenging adventure! Keep sharing…we’re with you!

  12. i love your blog. it is funny, and relatable. don’t change it!

  13. Tasha on February 9, 2012 at said:

    OMG when are you moving back here we could be the next Lucy and Ethel

  14. I wish there was a like button. 😉 People think my hubby and I are too mushy and either love it or hate it. But either way, I wanted you to know that after 33 years of experience with MY best friend, YOU ARE NORMAL! And I’ve learned to enjoy the people who like that my husband and I love each other and ignore the rest. LOL

    I didn’t know you wrote about so many things when I found your Kale Salad with Lemon, Parmesan and Breadcrumbs recipe. It’s only now that I came back to try making it tonight that I saw all of your categories. YAY! You go girl!

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